I know this blog is about raw but I just had to talk about Toxic People. I know that there are a number of us who are dealing with Food Addiction. I know most of my life I have dealt with addiction to food and only now have I been able to overcome this addiction. It takes constant work everyday on my part. It’s not hard but when you’ve dealt with addiction you have to keep on top of it.

The topic is Toxic people. As many of you know people can bring us down, and bring us down hard. When someone is dealing with any addiction and feel any type of pressure they are more then likely to cave if they have no control over it. Sometimes there are people in our lives that hurt us or try to put guilt on us.

Today I had this happen, from someone I love and someone I thought loved me. This person tried to tell me how they were giong to hurt themselves if I didn’t do something for them, and that the next time I talked to them they’d be in Jail or something, because I didn’t buy there cigarettes. Before, I would have been so sad and would have done whatever I could but not this time. One thing I’ve realized is that I don’t deserve to have the guilt of someone elses problems, they cannot blame me because they cannot afford to take care of there habit, it is not my fault. I refuse to take on this persons problem and I refuse to feel guilty because they want to smoke cigarettes and they cannot afford them.

I personally believe that we should not ever feel guilty for someone elses problems and also we should not go on harming ourselves becaue of there problems. Before I use to cry and eat my heart out when things like this would happen because guess what this situation has occured several times in the past with this person.

I have decided that I love myself enough to not worry about other peoples problems. I care about people but when someone tries to place guilt on you about the decisions they made it isn’t love, they are not loving you, they are not supporting you, they are trying to hurt you because they are hurting.

I write this because I bet there are many of you out there who have toxic people in your life, some people don’t have no concern as to how they make you feel or how they have hurt you. Sometimes toxic people are enough to make a person fail and not meet there own goals.

I am so grateful that I can now recognize situations like these because if I didn’t I would go on hurting because of someone elses problems because they tried to transfer there pain over to me.

It’s real, people can transfer there problems on to you and cause you to be down, if you let them.

Be aware of toxic people and don’t allow people to hurt you and place there problems on your back, you don’t deserve it.

I told this person that I love them and that if they love me they would never try to make me feel guilty for the life they choose to live.

Take care of yourself, and don’t allow people to bring you down with them.
Tanisha Marshall
http://www.tanishamarshall.com